If You Think Dating Is Hard, Try Writing About It!

I’m not exactly sure how to write about desperately dating (DD). I write about a bunch of different topics – travel, healthcare, cooking, dive bars. Some public, some not and those things just flow out of me unimpeded in all of my smart-ass tinged glory. But never have I tackled the subject of L-O-V-E and I’ve got to admit it, I’m a little stuck. Not because I don’t have stuff to say, believe me, I’ve got plenty! Hopefully some of which is even useful to others. But stuck because I really want to get it right.

It’s a serious proposition, finding love. Love is important to everyone. Unless maybe you are asexual or a socio-/psychopath, but then you wouldn’t be reading these articles anyway! Love can make life sweeter and everyone wants to figure out how to find it. This is important stuff, but I am not a serious writer, style wise at least. So how can I acknowledge the gravity of the topic of love and still write about it in a manner that is true (and entertaining) to myself?

Let’s give this a whirl and dive right in with a few basics: Its ok to want to find love. Just don’t fuck yourself over and others up in the process. Anyone who knows me or has read any of my stuff understands that I am not big on following rigid rules. That being said, I do believe there are some basic rights/wrongs in how to go about this. A hint: DD is NOT the right way. I’m not here to tell you exactly what to do or how to do it, but more to offer some guidance, suggestions, and food for thought as you proceed on this journey. I’ll also share what worked for me, because we are all suckers for success stories, amiright?

Because I get it. And I’ve been there. And now I’ve got it, true love that is. And I believe you can have it too.

Karyn Shomler AKA kc is me